The High Value Woman & Understanding Feminine Value

To put it simply, a high value woman is a woman who knows her value. And a woman is, at her essence, of infinitely high value. This might sound a little obvious, but sometimes the most simple concepts can be elusive to us in practice.

When I say value, I mean true feminine value. Not the masculine value that so many of us have been striving for.

As women, we are often taught that we have little intrinsic value. We are given the message that we must constantly perform and improve ourselves in a masculine fashion to prove our value and worthiness. Build an important career. Make something of yourself. Make money. Be strong, be powerful, be beautiful. Keep it all together. Take care of yourself. Take care of other people. Be it all, have it all, do it all. Be the perfect mother. Be a loving girlfriend or wife. Be fearless and capable and competent. And on it goes.

When we strip away all of the roles and achievements, shields and fortresses, what are we left with? Who are we then?

What remains is a woman with infinite intrinsic value. Her very existence is more than enough - the yearnings of her tender heart, the spark of creation in her wombspace.

When a woman truly understands and knows her value, she doesn’t need to control her environment nor abandon herself to meet external expectations. She simply rests in her feminine value and self-worth.

High value women are not strong, independent and powerful.

High value women are not over-givers, caretakers or people-pleasers.

High value women are not perfect.

High value women are practicing openness, vulnerability and commitment to their hearts.

A high value woman honors and expresses her true feelings and needs, trusting that she will be supported and guided in the right direction. If she encounters situations that do not honor her, she allows them to fall away or chooses to not engage. She will not abandon herself, because she knows the value of the feminine, and she will not accept anything less than honor, kindness, and devotion.

Her heart is a compass and a treasure.

I imagine the feminine heart as a priceless gemstone that glows and pulsates, and when we are open and in alignment and feeling cherished this gemstone radiates with an almost blinding light that is magnetic, seductive and healing. There is nothing more valuable or enchanting than this feminine heart energy.

But when we are shut down, misaligned or disconnected from our feminine value, it becomes very dim and shrouded, and we lose some of that radiance and magnetic force.

The magnetic field of the heart is 5000 times stronger than that of the brain. Take that in for a moment.

There are many things dimming the light of our hearts. This world has forgotten to cherish women. Men have lost their way. We have dishonored mother nature and the feminine principle. We are spiritually bereft. We treat our fellow human beings without feeling or compassion. We don’t remember who we are.

The heart has been dimmed and dimmed and dimmed.

But the high value woman is actively remembering - remembering her value, remembering our collective value, and choosing to feel all of it - the fear and the sorrow, the joy and the gratitude. She is offering up the truth of these feelings with courage and vulnerability, because they can steer us in a better direction.