Feminine Self-Worth & Cultivating Authentic Confidence

As women, we often have areas of our life or parts of ourselves that we feel insecure about. We may feel that our self-worth is lacking in some way, or there may be patterns of challenge in our life that we repeatedly face that are rooted in self-esteem issues. Part of the problem is that we have lost understanding around what feminine self-worth entails, and what it means to possess authentic confidence that stems from our inherent feminine value.

The feminine essence doesn’t need to do anything to possess great value. Yet women have been taught to strive, to self-improve, to reach for something greater, as if we do not already exist as the miraculous embodiment of feminine creativity.

Women have the ability to create life. There is nothing more valuable on the planet. Even if you are a woman who is not able to conceive and birth a child, you still embody feminine life force and creativity. Yet this truth has been forgotten and obscured.

As women, we have been taught that we must prove our worth or usefulness through the lens of societies masculine value system. But this is not where the feminine excels, this is not our domain of genius. We are remarkably adaptable and certainly able to “accomplish” great things in a masculine world, but at what cost? And is this truly a path of fulfillment for the feminine heart? Does it support her well-being and capacity to thrive?

When a woman is being asked to prove her worth and do so through the means of inauthentic expression that goes against her nature, ultimately she is being set up to fail, and she is being given the message that her true nature is not enough.

Herein lies the problem of feminine self-worth - we live in a world that has forgotten the value of the feminine.

The collective woman is carrying a deep, deep wound of unworthiness, which she has been carrying for centuries.

Donning masculine costumes and building our arsenal of protective structures and impressive achievements will not fill the feminine heart, nor satisfy the yearnings that we’re ashamed to admit or can’t remember the names of. I’ve written more about feminine wounds and the masks we wear here.

Masculine expressions of control, goal orientation and self-deprivation won’t result in feminine self-worth or satisfaction. This will only send us deeper into a loss of feminine integrity and lack of self-trust.

As long as they are from a place of fear and lack, and not joy and pleasure, our endeavors and accomplishments will be empty and draining and will ultimately lead to exhaustion and bitterness.

Feminine self-worth stems from an undeniable understanding of innate feminine value, and feminine confidence arises from vulnerability, letting go and trust. You can read more about the topic of feminine value here.

Sometimes when I observe my cat I am inspired by her innate sense of self-esteem - she does not question that she deserves exactly what she needs and wants, and she refuses to settle for anything less. She does not question that she is divinity itself, and therefore inherently worthy. ;)

The feminine zone of genius is found in her ability to surrender to God, trust life, and open herself as a channel of love, beauty, inspiration and creation. Her value is found in her very existence and in the wisdom of her heart.